Remove unused cares with more gusto

Add a missing include causing grpc to fail building due to missing type definitions.

Index: third_party/grpc/grpc_1.47.0.patch
--- third_party/grpc/grpc_1.47.0.patch.orig
+++ third_party/grpc/grpc_1.47.0.patch
@@ -11,6 +11,26 @@ index 7bb6b8bdb9..7644107b70 100644
 
  # The set of pollers to test against if a test exercises polling
  POLLERS = ["epoll1", "poll"]
+@@ -60,8 +60,7 @@
+             ret.append("//third_party/xxhash")
+         elif dep == "cares":
+             ret += select({
+-                "//:grpc_no_ares": [],
+-                "//conditions:default": ["//external:cares"],
++                "//conditions:default": [],
+             })
+         elif dep == "cronet_c_for_grpc":
+             ret.append("//third_party/objective_c/Cronet:cronet_c_for_grpc")
+@@ -162,8 +162,7 @@
+         srcs = srcs,
+         defines = defines +
+                   select({
+-                      "//:grpc_no_ares": ["GRPC_ARES=0"],
+-                      "//conditions:default": [],
++                      "//conditions:default": ["GRPC_ARES=0"],
+                   }) +
+                   select({
+                       "//:remote_execution": ["GRPC_PORT_ISOLATED_RUNTIME=1"],
 @@ -237,10 +235,6 @@
      test_lib_ios = name + "_test_lib_ios"
      ios_tags = tags + ["manual", "ios_cc_test"]
@@ -57,6 +77,37 @@ index 09fcad95a2..9b737e5deb 100644
      )
 
      native.bind(
+@@ -106,11 +106,6 @@
+     )
+ 
+     native.bind(
+-        name = "cares",
+-        actual = "@com_github_cares_cares//:ares",
+-    )
+-
+-    native.bind(
+         name = "gtest",
+         actual = "@com_google_googletest//:gtest",
+     )
+@@ -276,18 +271,6 @@
+             urls = [
+                 "https://storage.googleapis.com/grpc-bazel-mirror/github.com/google/re2/archive/8e08f47b11b413302749c0d8b17a1c94777495d5.tar.gz",
+                 "https://github.com/google/re2/archive/8e08f47b11b413302749c0d8b17a1c94777495d5.tar.gz",
+-            ],
+-        )
+-
+-    if "com_github_cares_cares" not in native.existing_rules():
+-        http_archive(
+-            name = "com_github_cares_cares",
+-            build_file = "@com_github_grpc_grpc//third_party:cares/cares.BUILD",
+-            sha256 = "ec76c5e79db59762776bece58b69507d095856c37b81fd35bfb0958e74b61d93",
+-            strip_prefix = "c-ares-6654436a307a5a686b008c1d4c93b0085da6e6d8",
+-            urls = [
+-                "https://storage.googleapis.com/grpc-bazel-mirror/github.com/c-ares/c-ares/archive/6654436a307a5a686b008c1d4c93b0085da6e6d8.tar.gz",
+-                "https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/archive/6654436a307a5a686b008c1d4c93b0085da6e6d8.tar.gz",
+             ],
+         )
+ 
 diff --git a/bazel/grpc_extra_deps.bzl b/bazel/grpc_extra_deps.bzl
 index 09fcad95a2..9b737e5deb 100644
 --- a/bazel/grpc_extra_deps.bzl
@@ -97,3 +148,14 @@ index 09fcad95a2..9b737e5deb 100644
      # Initialize Google APIs with only C++ and Python targets
      switched_rules_by_language(
          name = "com_google_googleapis_imports",
+
+--- a/src/core/lib/iomgr/sockaddr_utils_posix.cc~	Tue Jun 21 13:39:47 2022
++++ b/src/core/lib/iomgr/sockaddr_utils_posix.cc	Mon Nov 20 08:04:24 2023
+@@ -26,6 +26,7 @@
+ #ifdef GRPC_LINUX_TCP_H
+ #include <linux/tcp.h>
+ #else
++#include <netinet/in.h>
+ #include <netinet/tcp.h>
+ #endif
+ #include <stdio.h>
